TGTHRmess
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Life is messy.
We are better together.

Turn “let me know if you need anything” into real help.

TGTHRmess gives your people one private place to see what you need, claim what they can do, and actually show up.

Start your TGTHR — it’s free

No trial. No credit card. No public feed.

SHOW UP
This week for the Bennetts 3 of 7 covered
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Bring a mealTuesday · 5–6 PM
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School pickupThursday · 3:15 PM
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LaundryWednesday · 10 AM
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Sit with meJust company. That’s enough.
No group text. No awkward asking. Just show up.

Everyone wants to help.
Nobody knows what to do.

The texts come in.

“Let me know if you need anything.” “What can I do?” “We’re here if you need us.”

And they mean it.

But when you’re already in the mess, figuring out what you need, answering everyone, and coordinating the help becomes one more thing to manage.

You shouldn’t have to manage your village while you need your village.

How it works — only 3 steps

Your mess. Your people. One place.

1

Start your TGTHR

Together — your private space for this season.

Create your space and invite the people you actually want in it.

2

Say what you need

Here’s what we need.

Whatever would make today easier — pick a category, create a need, your people claim it.

🍝 Meals 👧 Kids 🏠 Home 🛒 Errands 🐕 Pets 🚗 Rides 💛 Company 👋 Visits ✨ Other
3

Let your people SHOW UP

I’ve got this.

They claim what they can do. Everyone sees what’s covered. You don’t have to coordinate it.

Don’t even know where to start?

🫟 Messie

Tell her what’s going on — in your own words.

“We just brought the baby home, my husband goes back to work Monday, we have two older kids and I’m exhausted.”

Messie helps turn the mess into actual things your people can do.

You don’t have to organize the chaos. Just tell Messie what’s happening.

SHOW UP

Here’s what we need.

Needs with real times. Your people claim one. Meals, kids, home, visits — or just sit with me.

STAY IN THE LOOP

Here’s what’s happening.

One update. Everyone you chose sees it. Stop answering the same fifteen texts when you should be focused on what matters!

SNAPSHOTS

Here’s what we want to share.

Private family pics under SHOW UP. No likes. No public feed. They’re also what go into the keepsake book when you put it together.

BOUNDARIES

Here’s what we need you to respect.

Quiet week. Text first. No kissing baby. Meals yes, visits later. Love by respecting what you need.

Boundaries

Help should feel like help.

Your TGTHR can know exactly what you need — and what you don’t.

Right now, we’d love:
  • Meals left at the door
  • Help with school pickup
  • Texts before visiting
Right now, please:
  • No surprise visitors
  • No baby kissing
  • Give us a little time before asking to hold the baby

Your boundaries don’t need an explanation. Your people just need to know them.

Start before you need it.

Build your TGTHR during pregnancy. Invite your people. Set your boundaries. Think through what might actually help.

Then when baby comes, you don’t have to build a support system while you’re recovering. It’s already there.

Not having a baby?

TGTHRmess is for all kinds of messy.

SurgeryLoss IllnessCaregiving MovingDivorce A hard seasonLife
TGTHR mess
Certified professional midwife Why TGTHRmess exists

Built from real life, not a boardroom.

TGTHRmess was created by a Certified Professional Midwife who sees the gap every week.

Families are surrounded by love. The texts come in. “Let me know if you need anything.” “How can I help?” “We’re here for you.”

But when life gets messy, turning all that love into actual help becomes one more thing to manage.

I’ve watched families go home with a phone full of people who care, but no simple way to organize the care.

TGTHRmess was built to change that — to make it easier for your people to stop asking what you need, and start showing up.

— Toniann, CPM
Founder of TGTHRmess

@tgthrmess on Instagram
The keepsake

And when the mess settles…
remember who showed up.

Your TGTHR becomes more than a list of tasks. It becomes the story of the people who carried pieces of life with you.

Your circle can chip in $25, $50, or the full $125 from day one. Funded or not, it’s yours either way.

Your photos. Your Love Notes. Your people. Your season. One beautiful keepsake of who showed up when life got messy.

Flip the sample → see what the book can feel like.

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Sample — your real book fills with your people.

Help is free. Memory is paid.

Nobody should have to sign up to find out.

TGTHR — free. Always.

Everything you need to get through the messy part. Needs. Claims. Updates. Boundaries. Your people.

No trial. No countdown. No credit card.

Keepsake — $125

A print-ready book of who showed up — photos, Love Notes, the record. Your people chip in $25, $50, or cover it. Most families never pay for this themselves.

Buy it yourself, or let your TGTHR chip in.

And whatever happens, everything you put in is yours to take with you — funded or not, whenever you want it. Export is free, always.

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