TGTHRmess
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Life is messy.
We are better together.

Turn “let me know if you need anything” into real help. Invite your people. Post what you need. They claim it.

Pregnancy, postpartum, recovery, loss — any season you shouldn’t carry alone.

Start your TGTHR How it works
SHOW UP
This week for the Bennetts 3 of 7 covered
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Bring a mealTuesday · 5–6 PM
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School pickupThursday · 3:15 PM
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LaundryWednesday · 10 AM
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Sit with meJust company. That’s enough.
No group text. No awkward asking. Just show up.

“Do you need anything?”

Kind words. Wrong timing. The person with the least capacity still has to organize the help. TGTHRmess makes needs specific — so your people can actually help.

Three steps.

1

Build your TGTHR

Create your private space and invite the friends and family you want beside you.

2

Share the mess

Post updates, photos, and what would actually help — meals, laundry, school pickup, childcare, errands, visits, or simply some company.

3

Let your people show up

Your TGTHR picks a need and a time that works for them. No awkward asking. No endless texts. Real people, real support.

SHOW UP

Needs with real times. Your people claim one. Meals, kids, home, visits — or just sit with me.

UPD8S

One update. Everyone you chose sees it. Stop answering the same fifteen texts from a hospital bed.

Moments

Private photos and milestones. No likes. No public feed. Only who you invite.

Boundaries

Quiet week. Text first. No kissing baby. Meals yes, visits later. Love by respecting what you need.

What’s in your mess?

Tap a category. Create a need. Your TGTHR claims it.

🍝 Meals 👧 Kids 🏠 Home 🛒 Errands 🐕 Pets 🚗 Rides 💛 Company 👋 Visits ✨ Other

Boundaries, said once.

So nobody has the awkward conversation — and still gets it wrong.

We’re accepting visitors Quiet week Text before you come Please don’t kiss baby Wash hands on arrival Meals yes · visits later Keep visits under an hour

Start in pregnancy. Shine in postpartum.

Build your TGTHR early. Prep meals, nursery, pet care, logistics. When baby’s here — one update, then SHOW UP does the heavy lifting. Same bones work for recovery, caregiving, loss, and life.

TGTHR mess
Certified professional midwife

Built by someone who sees this every week.

Not a tech idea about families. A midwife who watches people go home to a full phone and an empty plan for help.

Tell Messie what’s going on.

Free to use. Private by default. You talk, Messie writes the list, your people pick from it.

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